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How To Be Present For Your Family When You Go Home

Posted by Anonymous at 11/14/2017 1:09:14 PM

Physicians and Family Life

How To Be Present For Your Family When You Go Home

By Doug Bennett, Contributor

"The secret to health for both body and mind is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly." –Buddha

From their ancient roots in India, to more modern interpretations by the philosopher-writer Alan Watts in the 1960s and 1970s, the Buddhist principles of mindfulness and living in the moment have persisted for good reason. In fact, the concept of being "present" seems more popular than ever, manifesting itself in the practice of yoga, meditation and more contemporary approaches to wellness.

If we accept that “getting present" is fundamentally a good thing, then how do we go about it? There are many ways to bring oneself into a present state of mind. The best strategy is to try each one on for size and then stick with techniques that work well for you personally. Some approaches to help you slip into the present moment include:

Emulate those who already exhibit a present vibe. You can pick up someone else’s present vibe just through osmosis. If you already know someone who is more present than most other people you encounter or socialize with, reach out and let them know that you’re trying to improve your ability to focus on the here and now. Most people who have achieved some degree of success getting present on their own will be quite happy to share their experience. 

Watch video clips or listen to recordings of people who have mastered the art and science of being in the moment. You can search the Internet for a range of how-to tutorials offered by those who are eager to spread the word. Seek out those with decades of experience, such as Tara Brach, a popular clinical psychologist who has been practicing and teaching meditation since 1975.

Focus on breathing. Deep, slow belly breathing has been proven to elicit a calming effect on the human body and mind. This is because when we initiate or concentrate on breathing from our lower abdomen, blood pressure decreases and oxygen levels increase, thereby creating positive changes to the body’s physical and mental state.

Zero in on what is right in front of you. This is the most important—and also the most difficult—step to getting your mind into a present state. Start by touching your clothing, then focus—really focus—on how it feels. When your brain tries to distract you with thoughts of "What am I going to make for dinner tonight?" stop and refocus on the feel of the fabric right in front of you. Keep doing this again and again until it becomes easier. It's okay to concentrate on other sights and sounds as long as they're in your present surroundings.

Sometimes being present also means reevaluating your current work situation to decide if change is in order. Merritt Hawkins’ recruiters can answer any, and all, of your questions to help you take that next step to being “ever present” in not only your family life, but also your physician career. Browse our extensive online jobs database or reach out to one of our recruiters today.

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